I remember when I was little, my dad used to talk about the phenomenon of getting older; that as you age, your life seems to move faster. I finally understand what he means.
It feels like I’m just getting started, just really settling into my skin and who I am; I’m hopeful that the 40s really are the new 20s. There are so many things I still want to do, my bucket list is filled to the brim and everyday something new is added with urgency. I guess I’m feeling the tenderness of life lately which I find oddly comforting–I’m feeling my mortality but I’m not scared. I understand time flies and I need to embrace it.
But then on the other hand, it can feel overwhelming to look at the big picture. All of those things to accomplish! When I do get caught in the paralysis by analysis trap, I get frustrated about not being exactly where I want to be in life. Can you relate?
If I take a step back and look at the past year, I realize I am always moving forward even if it doesn’t feel like it. Step by step, each action has built on the other to bring me where I am today. I have grown in ways this year that make me really proud and this recognition alone is an accomplishment.
I’ve come to accept that wanting more out of life is just part of the human condition.
And this yearning, the curiosity, is what really gives my life richness and meaning.
So instead of hitting the panic button when life is passing at a break neck speed, I try to remember a few things to keep it all in perspective:
- Life happens in moments. There are very few lightning bolts in an average life span; appreciating the small moments are the key to my happiness.
- Give myself a little more credit. Although I want things to happen now! now! now! When I stop trying to climb Mount Everest in a day, I can take some micro steps to get closer to my goals. Inch by inch.
- A lot can happen in a year. I went from college girl to working girl in a year. I went from single girl to finding the love of my life in a year. I went from a corporate drone to an entrepreneur in a year. It all happens over time, yet looking back , it can seem to happen in a flash.
- Keep looking forward. Even though living in the moment is crucial to my happiness, I know that making plans also helps me get ready for that next growth spurt. The key for me is to be flexible.
- Play my theme song. Right now, it’s this one. There’s something about that song that’s fun, uplifting and puts me in a good mood. My theme song serves as my anthem to get me motivated, happy and focused.
- Pay attention. I pay attention to my movements, actions, thoughts and the way I look at things. When I really focus on what I want, and act as if it’s coming, it usually comes easily and fast. It really does work!
So what are you thinking about today that can bloom over the next year?