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Comparison is the thief of joy. {Don’t do it.}

you-are-more-than-awesome-you-re-amazingYOU ARE AMAZING.  Has anyone told you that lately?   You are amazing.  There is no one else in this world like you.  You are unique and beautiful and simply divine.

 There is a very special, very specific genius about you.  You have a very unique set of talents and skills; whether you hide them or show the world, is up to you. And I know showing up can be scary at times.

I remember when I was starting my abstract painting class a few years ago.  It’s full of adult painters that have been painting for quite sometime.  They all have a specific style, they know how to begin on a blank canvas (that can be tricky), and they know what to do for inspiration when they get stuck.

I remember the incredible frustration I felt during the first couple of months of class–I felt clumsy and foolish (I still do some days).  Learning something new as an adult can be downright painful at times.

I wanted so badly to paint what I was imagining in my head, but the translation from mind to canvas was just. not. happening.  I would look around and see how awesome the other paintings were and how badly my work sucked.

Comparing myself to others felt like a heavy weight in my heart because something that was supposed to be fun, had become a struggle.  That competitive instinct started to kick in and it didn’t feel good.  After all, I was taking this class to relax and explore my creativity; not to be the ‘best painter’ and earn a gold star.


So, I had a serious pep talk with myself.

I vowed that when I looked around the class, I would make myself see opportunities.  Instead of getting frustrated with what they were doing (and I was not), I promised I would make myself see the many techniques that I could copy and learn from.  My classmates were years ahead of me in training.  It was silly to think that I would catch up to them in a few months!

See, that’s the thing–when we compare ourselves to others, we don’t know where they are on the path.  We could be comparing our beginning steps to the middle of their journey;  It’s like comparing apples to sneakers.

When I reframed it from that beginner’s mind, I began to relax and find my own style.  When I stopped the comparison game, the very thing I was seeking had room to grow and show itself.  I just needed to get out of my own way.

There’s always going to be someone smarter and more successful than you because people don’t grow at the same pace, at the same time.  And that’s a good thing–we need others to inspire us, to show us what can be done. Just try to avoid the comparison game; it’s self defeating and only succeeds in stunting your growth.

Resist the urge to compare your insides to someone else’s outside.

It’s a losing battle and the view always looks better looking in.

Let go of the comparisons and dig in to your brilliance.  The world is waiting for you.




Comparison is the thief of joy. {Don’t do it.}2018-03-29T20:23:26-04:00

Who Are You: Your Authentic Self.

What does it mean to be your authentic self?  A lot of times authenticity is confused with perfection and those are two very different things. 

Being authentic is not who you are, it’s what you do. 

We can be authentic by practicing it everyday–it’s a choice we make of whether or not we are going to let ourselves be seen.  It’s also a practice in letting go of what others think of us (I know that can be hard to do.)

And it’s not about being perfect: Perfectionism is just a cover for fear.  Authenticity is letting go of that fear and letting people see who you really are, warts and all.

What does it mean to be authentic? A lot of times authenticity is confused with perfection and they are quite different. Click through to read more about creating an authentic life.I used to give talks on changing eating habits and how to incorporate a healthier lifestyle into everyday living.  And as I would talk about superfoods and how the rainbow of fruits and vegetables can heal the body, I could feel the skepticism and doubt creep in to the room.  Everyone resists change and who wants to hear about how vegetables can alter your life, anyway?!

So in an attempt to be authentic with my audience, I would then confess my love for doritoes and cherry coke.  The horror!  We all have our guilty pleasures.  By telling them about my favorite snacks, I gained their trust because I became more real.

Being authentic draws people in and creates a connection.

How do you know when you’re being authentic?  It feels good.  It’s hard to put yourself out there at times (we’re all shy to an extent), but ultimately when you let yourself be seen + heard for you who are, it creates ease in your life and you can feel that deep in the pit of your belly or the flutter of your heart.  Others will respond to that.

Self-expression is vital to our well-being! Through this, we build awareness and are able to dig in deeper to who we really are.  And as a result, showing up more sincerely in life becomes easier.

Allowing yourself to truly be seen? That’s authenticity.

Take action:

Here are some questions to think about to help you dig in to the parts of your life that will bring out your authenticity:

  • What do you love doing when you have some time to procrastinate?
  • Fill in the blank: If I knew I could do anything and not fail, I would _________________.
  • What do you spend your daydream time thinking about?
  • What is something people compliment you about?
  • How do you dream spending your retirement years?

Pay attention to those answers that gave you a light and happy feeling.  You can tell you’re heading in the right direction when you feel a sense of ease and excitement. 

The answers to these questions are a great peek into some of the things that inspire your authenticity; maybe it’s time to dive in and see where they lead you.

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