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How To Stay Positive When You Want To Bury Your Head In The Sand

Looking for a few hints on how to stay positive? Click through to read 5 easy tips to keep in mind to avoid burying your head in the sand!

There’s always something to be happy about in life, no matter what is going on.  But what happens during those times when you hit a mental roadblock and can only see the hurdles? We’ve all been there–that place where it seems like there’s nothing but grey skies and rain headed your way…but fear not, friend!  I have a few simple things to share with you that will get your mind back to thinking blue skies and sunshine daydreams.

Here are a few tricks I use, maybe they’ll help you, too:

1. It sounds simple, but stop looking at the down side. You can find a drawback to everything, even winning the lottery! But what you focus on will grow, so don’t accentuate what you want to change.  Put a kabash on those negative thoughts.

2. Practice loving the silver lining. Thinking positively is actually a habit you can develop.   I promise it’s not that hard!  The trick is this: when you find yourself going down the doom and gloom road, take a detour and mentally put on the brakes.  You can say things to yourself like, “that’s not what I want to focus on” or “that isn’t true to me” and head on over to a sunnier thought.  Stop (the thought), drop (the negativity) and roll (with a better viewpoint).

3. Remember that everything changes. If you DO find yourself stuck in a rut  you can’t get out of, have no fear–nothing lasts forever. One of my favorite things my mom always said to me is, ‘this too shall pass’.  It’s a great reminder that life is always changing, no matter what.  Knowing that simple fact makes it easier to pick up those helpful habits again later when the storm passes.

4. Give yourself an out. We all have crappy days, amiright?  And admitting that can sometimes make it easier to just feel the stink and then move on from it.  It can be as simple as saying to yourself “I feel like crap”.  That small confession can release the tension and start you on the path to a better mood.

5. Connect with someone else. There’s no better way to change your perspective than to ask for a little boost from a friend. Everyone knows what it feels like to be on the road to misery so it wouldn’t be hard for a buddy to relate to your situation + help you steer your thoughts in a different direction. That’s what friends are for!

It’s natural to hit that proverbial wall from time to time, so it’s more helpful to have a plan in place when you do. Don’t let those doomsday thoughts rule your moment–get in tune with what’s happening and change your view in an instant with these simple steps.  And remember: every storm eventually passes.

Love, Steph

 

 

P.S. Stay positive + dig in to your best self

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How To Stay Positive When You Want To Bury Your Head In The Sand2018-03-29T20:23:07-04:00

There Are So Many Things To Be Happy About. {Here Are Mine.}

 

What are you happy about these days?  Sometimes it's as simple as writing things down and becoming more aware.  Click through to see my personal tips for seeing the happy in my own life.

I recently took a look at the big picture of my life.  The main thing I noticed?  There’s a lot to be happy about.  I zoomed out from looking at the minutiae of everyday life + those details that weigh me down from seeing the big picture–it was such a good lesson to recognize the amazing treasures that exist in my world.

I would love to say that recognizing the parts of my life that I am happy about, makes me feel accomplished and whole: but ah, the contrary, my friend.  There is so much more I want to do.  Taking inventory reminds me that life is short and my list is long!  But this sort of checking in is a necessary exercise in declaring small victories along the way.

Celebrating what is rather than what’s not, builds momentum.

Recognizing the joy as it happens makes it easier for me to acknowledge those wonderful moments of joy when they happen again.

Here are some of the things I’m happy about (maybe you can relate these happy spots to your life, too):

I have some amazing family and friends in my life.  My connections are strong and that’s a vital and necessary component for me; it is where my happiness stems from.  My mom was a positive thinker and she passed that along to me (thank god!) So when the chips are down, I lean in to my tribe and they gracefully hold me until I’m ready to give it another go.

I am a healthy, able-bodied woman.  I workout about 5 times a week.  I went through a spell of some tough luck with my health–one of the rough times was when I had to have surgery half way around the world.  After returning home, I was bedridden for a couple of months. Yes, months.  It was a big fat wake up call to appreciate the power of my body and to always nurture it in some way.  I have never taken my health for granted since.

I have all of my basic needs met.  I don’t struggle with feeding or clothing myself; I lead a simple lifestyle, but one that affords me fun and relaxation.  I learned long ago that experiences and people make me happy, not things.  Because of this, I am able to focus on moments rather than chasing after a car or designer bag or whatever.

I have deep stirring desires + goals I want to accomplish.  I am motivated by my art and the people I share it with; I am head over heels in love and look forward to creating a family of my own; I find writing on this blog to be such a freeing process; I am inspired by the process of life and all of the changes we go through along the way.  All of these things get me out of bed, make me keep trying and learning in my everyday life.

Inspiration is an amazing motivator.

After my stroll down appreciation lane, I realized this: I am happy by choice.  My life is far from perfect–I have gone through some disastrous times in my life just like everyone else.  I lost my mother at a fairly young age, I had a brush with death in India and I’ve endured some heartaches and all around crappy times.  But you know what?  Through it all, I knew there was light at the end of the tunnel because nothing lasts forever.  Knowing that the good stuff was right around the corner was enough to get me through.

As a result, I give myself the permission to be happy.  I am committed to seeing the bright side in any situation.  There is no more self-deprication to make others feel better (that doesn’t work anyway) or looking for the ‘catch’ when it seems too good (sometimes it’s just a good thing!)  Part of being happy is accepting those magical moments of life when they happen and enjoying them to the fullest.  I choose to look at life through rose colored glasses and it’s made all the difference.

What are you happy about these days? Make a list of 5 things and stick them on your bathroom mirror for the next week so you see them as you start and end your day. You are sure to view your life in a different light when you focus on what is working.

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