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5 Posts That Will Change Your Perspective


Here are a few oldies but goodies that can help you change your perspective.  If there’s one thing I know, it’s that it only take a moment to see things differently.  Hopefully these words from out of the vault will help you do just that:

♥ Don’t Ask For Permission To Take Care Of Yourself.

I admit it, I am a reformed rule follower.  When I was in kindergarten, I learned that following the rules doesn’t always make sense.

♥ Don’t Be Seduced By The Struggle. {Follow The Ease.}

One of the most seductive lies we’re told is: you have to struggle to get what you want.  But  if we are constantly reinforcing thoughts about struggle and hardship, how can anything else show up?

♥ Getting Clear On the WHY of Your Work Will Lead You To The WHAT.

You can be in the ideal work scenario and still feel unsettled, confused or dissatisfied.  Figuring out the why of your work will catapult you to a different level of happiness and fulfillment.

♥ Want to get inspired? {Feel your way through it.}

Inspiration is the fuel that moves you forward.  Figuring out your inspirational muse can be tricky at times, but it’s so important to your ultimate happiness.

♥ 5 Simple Steps to get what you want from life. {Lunch is optional}

You are the artist of your own life!  You can intentionally construct where you want to go rather than just let life happen to you.  All you need is a vision and a desire to follow through on it.


5 Posts That Will Change Your Perspective2018-03-29T20:23:08-04:00

Don’t Ask For Permission To Take Care Of Yourself.

I admit it, I am a reformed rule follower.  When I was in kindergarten, I learned that following the rules doesn’t always make sense.

It was a crisp autumn day in 1978 and I was sporting a newly knitted poncho from my Aunt Peg; it was made of a cozy, soft pink and white wool.  After jumping off the bus and getting in to my classroom that morning, I hung up my beloved poncho to get ready for our skills testing.

My teacher explained that under NO circumstances do we get up from our seats and that if something came up, we would have to wait for whatever it was that we needed until after the testing was done.

To love oneselfAnd so as nature would dictate, about 15 minutes into the testing, I raised my hand because I suddenly needed to go to the bathroom.  Really bad.  As per the earlier instruction, she ignored my hand waving in the air.  I began to panic–I know she saw me, and my 5 year old bladder couldn’t hold on for too much longer.

Eventually, I lost control and peed in my pants right at my seat.

I felt totally humiliated in front of my classmates as they started giggling and pointing at me and the puddle under my chair.  I was forced by my teacher to put on my new poncho as a make-shift skirt and was sent to the school nurse to wait until my mom got to school to pick me up with dry clothes.  Talk about embarrassing.

As young as I was when this happened, it had a profound impact on my life.  I learned that I was never going to let anyone stop me again from taking care of my personal needs; I was always going to choose myself first.

Back then I was worried about what the other kids would think if I got out of my chair and disobeyed the instructions.  I was worried I would get yelled at by the teacher.   My five year old self wanted to be ‘good’ and follow the rules and not get in trouble.

But the world doesn’t work by one set of instructions and sometimes you need to break the rules.  Sometimes you just have to do what’s best for you and let the chips fall where they may.  I learned in that classroom that listening to my primary needs are the most important thing I can do for myself, especially when it comes to my health.

So now as I embark on new kinds of journeys in my life: getting married, starting a family  and developing my art career, I remember that taking care of myself should always be the first step. Self- care will make the journey more fun and enjoyable.  And whatever comes up after that, I can handle with a little grace + patience.





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