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Don’t hide who you are. {Your quirks are SO loveable!}

Don't hide who you are.  Your quirks are so loveable!  Click through to read why you need to show your quirky side more.

I knew this girl in college who seemed almost robotic; she looked perfect from the outside.  She was an A+ student, an athlete and she had the perfect come back for everything.  She dressed impeccably and never cursed, farted or had lipstick on her teeth.  Sometimes it was exhausting just being around her.

At this point in my life, I was still figuring out that overalls were not my best fashion choice and that I desperately needed to let my pixie cut grow out if I ever wanted a boyfriend.  College was the ultimate petri dish of figuring yourself out; but when I compared myself to her, I felt like I completely missed the memo on how to have it all together.

 

One day when I was heading to class, I saw her secretly smoking.  It may not seem like much (considering we were in the experimental college years) but she had painted such a picture of perfection to everyone around her that it was waaaay out of character.  Even she was hiding it.

Funny thing is–after that day, I kind of liked her more.  When I saw her be more human and fallible, she grew on me.

No one has it together, why are we all so delusional to think we’re the only one that doesn’t?  When I started taking my painting classes as an adult, I felt so uncomfortable because I didn’t know what I was doing (most days I still don’t).  I was surrounded by some amazing artists that would whip up a masterpiece in a two hour time frame, while I was still trying to figure out what brush to use.  As a result, I became frustrated and defensive–my weakness was showing for everyone to see!  But then I remembered it’s part of the process, part of learning and growing.  I loosened up, felt the discomfort and worked through it.

Life is full of constant adjustments.  We try to hide our imperfections; we bob and weave and morph into unrecognizable versions of ourselves.  We all have those feelings of frustration and inadequacy.

We all hide in some way or another.  We tweak, fix, primp and change our ways so that no one sees that other side of us–the part that we think no one wants to see (ugly, dark, sloppy, needy etc).  We cover our grey hair, tamper down our sexuality, play the game because we all have that fear of truly being seen for who we are.

The funny part is, the ‘ugly’ side is what connects us. We can all relate to that side, because it’s real.

It’s the quirks that people fall in love with, not the perfection.

Decide who you are and work on becoming comfortable with that.  Not because others like it, but because YOU like it.

Those quirks make us loveable.  Next time you’re feeling bashful or embarassed, don’t twist or contort yourself to fit a certain mold.  Show the world who you are because someone’s going to love it.

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The Secret To Happiness: Let Go of These 5 Lame Beliefs. {Part 2}

letting go and holding on

There are certain beliefs we have that stop us from being ultimately happy.  We don’t even realize where they come from because they are so ingrained into our psyche.  We grow up with these beliefs, (mostly from our parents but also from experiences) and we take them as concrete facts.

We may not even fully buy in to these ideas, but they are so intimately woven into our lives that we don’t see them for what they really are: half-truths.

Lame beliefs hold us prisoner and don’t offer any solace. They delay our growth and happiness.

Let’s let go of these things:

Let go of always wanting more.  We are conditioned to want more, but studies show we are happier with less.  There’s a saturation point for wanting things, both of a physical and emotional nature.  Don’t be a hoarder.

Let go of the fear of the unknown. There’s no magic bullet. You are going to have to figure things out as they come.  But fear is a contagious feeling and it will burrow deep in your heart if you let it.  Trust that things are happening as they should, then take a deep breath and keep moving forward.

Let go of feeling like time is running out.  Time is a man-made construct.  You are the ruler of your time, not the other way around.

Let go of the godforsaken drama.   Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. (Eleanor Roosevelt)  Don’t buy into someone else’s crazytown just because they’re bored and have nothing else to talk about.  Rise above the triteness and find other ways to nourish your soul.

Let go of needing to know the answers.  Enjoy the process and pace at which your life is moving.  If you knew everything all at once, you’d be overwhelmed and miserable.  Enjoy the unfolding of it all.

Make regular adjustments in your life.  It’s normal to change your mind, you’re entitled to grow and expand and move on.

Let go of those lame beliefs that no longer serve you.

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The Secret to Happiness: Let Go Of These 5 Lame Beliefs. {Part 1}

let things go

As much as we try to deny it,  we all have those stories about our life that we tell over and over again. (I know I do!)  A lot of the time, those stories are of pain and heartache; they can feel so heavy sometimes.  We’re hoping that talking about it over and over will change the outcome, or things will just feel different the more we tell them.  It’s the wishful thinking that some magical solution will appear when we aren’t looking.

Telling the stories over and over doesn’t make them go away; in fact it does quite the opposite.  This type of thinking holds us back.  It delays our happiness; it reinforces the struggle and keeps those feelings alive and thriving in our mind.  Thankfully, there is a solution to this emotional merry-go-round, and it’s not as hard as you think.

What is it time to let it go of?

Let go of the idea that you’re going to get it together.  We’re constantly changing beings.  Nothing stays the same, that’s the beauty of stretching limits and growing in life.  The sooner you accept that you’re always going to have to make adjustments in your life and it won’t be wrapped in a pretty bow, the happier you’ll be.

Let go of needing someone or something to fix you.   That house, car, partner or kid is not going to make you feel like the person you always thought you were.  Things don’t make you happy, experiences do.  Stop chasing satisfaction from the outside and find that rich inner life that you want to explore.

Let go of people or things you’ve outgrown.  It’s hard to let go of friends or objects that you’ve had forever but if they are not contributing to your growth and happiness, they are holding you back.  Have the courage to let them go so they can find someone else that they will thrill and excite.

Let go of being seduced by the struggle.  Don’t buy into the idea that everything takes hard work to happen.  It’s true, life is full of challenges, but sometimes the most beautiful things happen easily and effortlessly. Life can often be quite easy when you let it; don’t question that gift from the universe.

Let go of the hurt. “Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die” (Buddha) We’re all tender, vulnerable beings and we get hurt everyday in some way.  Letting go and letting lightness back in will make you a stronger, more compassionate person.

Take a deep breath.

Make some space for yourself by letting go.

The universe will reward your courage.

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