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Opening Up, Following Your Gut and Enjoying Everyday Life: The October Wrap-up

10 Daily Habits That Keep Me Healthy and Sane. 

Life can be fast, chaotic, stressful and beautiful all at once.  Here are some things I do to stay grounded– it’s all about progress, not perfection!

Hi-five cosmic excellence.   I try to remember all of the things I’m grateful for in my life (and not in my life), especially when I’m having a poor me moment or feeling all around crappy.  Gratitude works like an inner fire extinguisher that can douse even the worst of depression flare ups.  Being thankful is a powerful equalizer.  More…

Opening Up: 3 Paths To Liberation. {And How I Survived Heartbreak.}

I went through a really bad breakup a few years ago.  Everyone experiences heart break at some point in their life and this one was a doozy.  We were engaged, we lived together, we were planning for a future, and then all of a sudden…we weren’t.  It was not pretty–there were lots of tears and hard conversations and promises to myself of ‘never again!’  It was an experience that ushered me into a new space: closed off and numb.  More…

The wrap upThe Warts of Worry. {And How You Can Avoid Them.}

I have a confession to make: I am a recovered worrier.  I used to fret about things I couldn’t control, things I could control, even things that didn’t concern me.  Can you relate?

Then one day in college,  I missed half of a HUGE presentation for my senior project: I overslept my alarm (hello worst scenario, ever!)  I arrived in the classroom a panicked and disheveled mess thinking: how will I ever fix this?  It turns out over-sleeping the presentation inspired my group members to get creative, and in the end we got an A- for the project and our improvisational skills.  More…

How To Follow Your Gut Instincts. {What Cues Are You Listening To?}

Gut instincts: we all have them.  But do we always let them guide us?  Call it a spidey sense or women’s intuition, following your gut is a great barometer for making decisions.

Last year around May, I started feeling a little strange: I was shaky when I got up in the morning, I felt foggy and I was always tired.  I had talked to my doctor before about always feeling run-down and we chalked it up to my active lifestyle.

So when these new symptoms popped up, I got a full blood work up to see what was going on.  When she ordered the normal blood tests, I’m not sure why, but I asked her to test my thyroid.  I had no history of thyroid issues, neither did anyone in my family (it’s often hereditary) but something in me wanted to dig a little deeper, so I just went with it.  More…

Enjoying Everyday Life. {Even When There’s Laundry To Do.}

I was catching up with a dear friend on the phone the other day, and after running through the latest news in each of our lives, I asked her again, “So how are you, really?  She took a deep breath and replied, “I have so many wonderful things going on in my life, but sometimes I’m just going through the motions and not even experiencing the moment.  I want to enjoy everything, but I’m so tired.

Although our lives are on different tracks right now, I understood completely–she has a house to run, a business to help, kids to raise–the list goes on.  They’re all amazing blessings, but understandably, she’s overwhelmed.  More…

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Opening Up, Following Your Gut and Enjoying Everyday Life: The October Wrap-up2018-03-29T20:23:21-04:00

10 Daily habits that keep me healthy and sane. {They may work for you, too.}

Life can be fast, chaotic, stressful and beautiful all at once.  Here are some things I do to stay grounded– it’s all about progress, not perfection!

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1) Hi-five cosmic excellence.   I try to remember all of the things I’m grateful for in my life (and not in my life), especially when I’m having a poor me moment or feeling all around crappy.  Gratitude works like an inner fire extinguisher that can douse even the worst of depression flare ups.  Being thankful is a powerful equalizer.

2) Indulge.  I eat chocolate almost everyday.  Not handfuls of it, (although I’ve done that too) but just a taste.  It’s something I love and life is just too short not to enjoy what you love.

3) Kick it up a notch.  I have to physically move and break a sweat most days because it helps me put things in focus.  It relieves my stress and gives me an opportunity to unwind.  Trust me, there are days when I hate going to the gym.  So guess what?  Those are the days I skip it.  I just don’t let that one day turn into a week (and throw in the towel all together).

4) Connect with others.  Feeling a connection with others is something I can never get enough of.  Isn’t that why were here?  To grow, connect and experience life together?  I love to feel a part of my loved ones’ lives as much as they are a part of mine.

5) Eat like a champ.  I have learned some pretty fantastic food combinations that can have an instant affect on my body and mood.  Using this knowledge has helped me get a better grip on what works and what doesn’t; It’s a never ending science experiment.

6) Get 8 hours of sleep.  I’m one of those people that needs a lot of sleep.  I know ultimately it’s a blessing but sometimes I feel like it’s a curse.  All of that time! I could be doing other things!  But as Lao Tzu says: When nothing is done, nothing is left undone.  Which really means the more you rest, the more energy you’ll have to get stuff done later; down time is critical.

7) Naval gaze.  I used to have a meditation practice for years and then one day I just stopped;  I just didn’t feel connected to it like I used to.  So now I take some time each day to think–I think about my life, what I’m doing and where I want to go.  I think about acceptance and how I can be happier and/or more helpful to others.  This naval gazing is the opposite of indulgent; it helps me get more focused.

8) Take the mental trash out.  Everyday I experience a rainbow of feelings which can include guilt, sadness, anger and fear.  When that dark side comes up, I try to acknowledge that yes, I screwed up or yes I could have done things differently, and then try to gracefully let them go.  There’s no changing the past, so I try to learn from it and move on.  Letting go of that darkness creates space for more productive emotions to take root.

9) Give in to what is. It’s easy to get caught up in trying to orchestrate every last detail in my life.  As much as possible, I try to throw my hands up and scream, “UNCLE!!”  When I relax and ride the wave of life, everything just seems easier.

10) Have fun. 

What are some of your daily habits that keep you healthy and sane?  Do any of the habits I listed resonate with you?  I’d love to hear about it over on my facebook page.

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10 Daily habits that keep me healthy and sane. {They may work for you, too.}2018-03-29T20:23:23-04:00

How To Make Happiness A Habit

 

Happiness is no different than any other habit--you must practice to get better at it! Learn some tips on how to incorporate more happiness in your life. Make happiness a habit!

Spring is a time of renewal and I feel like it’s time to renew my fun quotient.  This past weekend at Easter brunch my nieces were hysterically laughing most of the day.  They were having so much fun. Not at anything in particular, they changed activities quite often, but they were just plain enjoying themselves.

I think they’re geniuses.  They can have fun no matter where they are or who they are with–they take life as it comes and roll with it. I wondered to myself, why do we forget the fun and become that serious adult?  I think I do a pretty good job of having fun in my life, but it’s easy to get bogged down with adult responsibilities.

Here are some things I noticed about those lovely, laughing girls that can help anyone bring the happiness habit back to their life:

1) Be insatiably curious.  My nieces are always asking questions–why? who? how? what? when can we do that?  They want every little last detail because their beautiful brains are still blossoming.  Details expand us with ideas and opportunities.  Details encourage us to dig in and to look deeper.  Details are the fabric of everything that’s happening.  Look at the details more.

2) Find the joy in everything.  Have to go to the dentist? You get a free toothbrush! Got the stomach flu? You’ll lose a pound or two! If you look hard enough, you can find the good in everything; all you need is a change in perspective.  It’s like a cool habit you can practice at first, then soon it becomes second nature.

3) Don’t be afraid to look silly when trying new things.  When you’re trying something new, there’s always a little fear in it.  Fear can be a good motivator, just don’t let it hold you back. I know it’s not fun to fall on your face and have others laugh at you.  But guess what?  You’re much closer to succeeding at what you are trying than the people that aren’t.  Trying things out that may make you happy can catapult you to a new level of thinking.

4) Be in the moment.  Something else I noticed about those silly girls is that they rolled with everything throughout the day.  When there was music on, they started singing and dancing.  When I was making pancakes on the griddle, they asked if they could take a turn with the batter (which they turned into a funny design). They bounced from room to room checking out the scene, just living blissfully in the moment.

I was so grateful to be around them this weekend–they got me out of my winter funk and reminded me that there’s so much to be happy about.

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How To Make Happiness A Habit2018-03-29T20:23:29-04:00

Thinking Of Making A Change? Take It Slow

Thinking of making a change? Take it slow. Personal growth is a process of small changes over time, don't rush it!

 

I was on the treadmill at the gym the other day and there was a woman next to me commiserating with her friend.  She was talking about the new diet she was on and how horrible it was because she couldn’t eat anything white–bread, pasta, sugar etc.

She sounded miserable–she wasn’t losing weight because she was overloading on other things to fill her white food void.   When did our eating habits become so stinkin’ complicated?  There are so many diets out there–and they’re all trying to tell us that there is one great way to solve all of our weight and health issues.

I was thinking about the times in my life when I gained weight–the freshman 15, some rough spots with relationships, family tragedy–they all put my eating habits into a tailspin.  I’m not one of those people that ‘starves depression’; I feed it numb.  But I eventually came out of the chocolate cake haze to get moving back into a healthier direction.  And it always reminded me of the basic premise I know about eating:

Diets don’t work.

Actually, no kind of deprivation works– it eventually comes back around with a vengence, right?  I have found when I am totally off the rails in my life, the best way to get back to basics is to identify the areas that are not just not working.  Whether it’s food patterns, a relationship or just stupid behaviors that are getting in the way of me being my best.  I try to think about the habits that are making me swim, rather than sink.

What feels great?  What is good for me that feels great?  Whether it’s my poor sleeping habits, my PMS munchfests or skipping my workouts, even making a slight change to any of them will get me moving back in the right direction.

The best advice I got with getting back to the middle was: start slow.

Change takes time girlfriend! And I know If I jump in with guns-a-blazin’, let’s do this thing NOW attitude, I tend to burn out faster because it’s just plain overwhelming to take on a lot of change all at once.

Remember the turtle? Slow and steady wins the race.

Also, it doesn’t hurt to reach out and ask for help.  Rome wasn’t built in a day.  I have to remind myself that all of my bad habits won’t change in one day either.  I try not to be the hero—I reach out and ask for help or support.  It makes me feel less like a loner and more like the amazing, constantly changing person I am.

And guess what?  There are other people going through the exact same thing.  It feels better when I find someone else who feels the same way I do.  I feel more connected and like I’m not alone in this.  And guess what?  Neither are you.

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Thinking Of Making A Change? Take It Slow2018-03-29T20:23:30-04:00
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