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Getting To Know You + Me: What Are You Most Grateful For Everyday And Why?

Getting To Know You + Me

This series is about getting to know you + me.  It’s a reflection of sorts to help you get to know yourself better (and I’m going to share, too!)  When we know ourselves better, it’s easier for others to know us, too, and that creates stronger bonds + connections.  As a result, we feel happier.

Here’s how it works:  I’ll be posting a question here on the blog and you can share your answer in the comments below or on Facebook, Instagram or Google+ using the hashtag #gettingtoknowyouandme .  The cool part is that you can use the hashtag to find others on the same journey.  Who knows?  You may make a new friend.

Getting To Know You + Me grateful

There are so many things I am grateful for–birds in my backyard, peanut butter and rhubarb jelly sandwiches, my nieces and their silly jokes, a clear sky when I can see all of the stars, a sex and the city marathon when I’m on the elliptical at the gym, dark chocolate + ginger, friends who just listen and let me babble, homemade pizza…I could go on and on.

But I’d have to say the thing I’m most grateful for in my life is my health.

Back in 2008 I went on a trip of a lifetime, touring around India and Nepal.  It was a 3 week trip to see the beautiful cities of Northern India and then cross over into the amazing country of Nepal.  When I left home, I knew it was going to be one of those trips that would change me forever.  I was prepared to be out of my comfort zone, I just didn’t know quite how much!

I ended up getting really, really  sick (as in almost not making it home) but through the kindness of strangers, and a few questionable medical facilities, I was able to get the help I needed to get better.  It made me appreciate my health so much more after I recovered.   It also made me realize that if I am physically well, I can handle just about anything.

If you’re curious about what happened and want to read more, here is the link to my travel blog for that trip.

Now it’s your turn–what are you most grateful for?  Tell me in the comments below or show me on instagram with the tag: #gettingtoknowyouandme

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Getting To Know You + Me: What Are You Most Grateful For Everyday And Why?2018-03-29T20:23:11-04:00

Share your Joy. {We Want to Hear About It.}

I was out with a group of women recently and the conversation shifted to one who just got engaged. As we dug into the details of the day and all of the glorious trappings of it, I couldn’t help but notice how she was tempering her excitement and downplaying the whole thing. “I don’t want people to think I’m bragging” she said to me later. “I remember what it felt like to be single and I don’t want to make any of my single friends feel bad.”

As one of those single friends, I really wanted to hear about her happiness. There’s something contagious about someone who is beaming pure joy; it’s catchy and I wanted some of it.

But I understand what she was saying. On one hand, no one likes a bragger. On the other hand, she was experiencing an amazing time of her life–if you don’t scream for happiness about this sort of thing, when do you? It got me thinking:

When did being happy become taboo?

Share your joy

I recognize that she was coming from a place of sensitivity. And that’s so considerate of her! But like my mom always said, there’s enough happiness to go around. There’s no limit on how much happy one person can experience + they can’t use it all up. We can all win.

And downplaying your happy doesn’t increase mine, it just decreases yours.

We don’t have to degrade wonderful moments so that others won’t feel inadequate or jealous. I get it–we’ve all felt jealous at some point of someone else’s good fortune; but tempering joy isn’t helpful.  In fact, quite the opposite is true. Feeling the full throttle of elation for your own life encourages others to do the same for theirs.

So let’s get back to basics, increase our overall joy and encourage others to do the same.  Here are some simple steps to do that:

  1.  Choose happiness.  It sounds simple, yet we forget that happiness is a choice.  There is a silver lining to every cloud.  Start cultivating a habit that always looks for the best in all things.  When you approach life this way, happiness becomes the norm.
  2. Stop comparing.  If you encounter someone that has what you want, remember that by virtue, the yearning you have was put there for a reason.  Your wanting and searching for it, means it was meant to be in your life in some way.  Be gracious.  Know your time is coming.
  3. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude.  When you’re aware + grateful of all of the wonderful things in your life, it’s easy to be happy.  Make a list of all of these amazing things and reflect on it regularly.  It’s tough to be down when you’re feeling like a rockstar.
  4. Be the pied piper.  Moods are contagious so bring your happiness with you wherever you go.  Share your joy.   You can be an inspiration to others and create an environment that is fun and joyful.  You just might be that spark to give others permission to ignite their own happiness.

Next time someone starts leaning in to a joyful story, give them permission to wallow in that happy space.  When they try to divert to the negative parts or shut it down, encourage them to stay present and share more of their elation.  It gives everyone permission to feel good, then we all win.  And that’s the best reason to be happy.

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Want to get inspired? {Feel your way through it.}

Want to get inspired? Feel your way through it!
Want to get inspired? Click through to read 6 ways to feel your way through it.

 

As a kid, I would walk up and down the craft aisles of various stores and get this welling up feeling in my chest. I loved markers and different textured papers (still do!)  I loved the different kinds of pens and how they felt in my hand. I loved collage and mod podge and the smell of glue.  What I came to realize is that this is what it felt like when I was being inspired.

Being inspired (or ‘in spirit’ as it literally means) feels like a calling. It can be something as simple as cooking a fantastic meal for yourself,  helping your kid learn something new, or trying a new style of exercise.  Inspiration is the fuel that moves you forward.  Figuring out your inspirational muse can be tricky at times, but it’s so important to your ultimate happiness.

Because if you’re not living an inspired life, what are you doing?

When you’re inspired, you’re tapping into that well of magic that provides motivation, excitement and insight into the unfolding of what you love.  You may not be able to knock it out of the park everyday, but there will be an automatic zing to your step if you keep some basic things in mind:

Keep it simple.  Don’t complicate your life when you don’t have to. Keeping the basics in mind will help you appreciate the amazing things that living a simple life can bring.  That well can spring some seriously inspiring moments because you’re not bogged down with a lot of distractions and static noise.

Cultivate an attitude of gratitude: when you are grateful, it’s easy to get inspired. Seeing someone in a wheelchair can kickstart that fitness regimen you’ve been meaning to try. Hearing about an untimely death can motivate you to pursue the opportunities that are in front of you right now.

Everyday is a clean slate.  Each day is a chance to start over and let go of those silly grudges.  When you change your attitude and your outlook, the things around you change as well because you’re seeing them through new eyes.

You become what you think about.  What are the thoughts that constantly run through your head?  Are you always worried or angry or scared?  (That’s not a great way to project an inspired state.)  Start thinking about things you love and what makes you feel good; love is the ultimate inspiration.

Date yourself.  Alone time is crucial to cultivating a life you are inspired by because reflection provides perspective and space for ‘aha’ moments.  Set up a weekly date when you can explore your interests and motivational thoughts.  And give yourself the gift of making this time non-negotiable.

Live right now.  Life can get very complicated when we’re living too far in the future or in the past.  Why drag yesterday’s junk into the present moment? Living now frees you to just be where you are.  I know it’s easier said than done, but viewing life from the rear view mirror or trying to predict the future can cause a lot of unnecessary angst and worry. And no one can feel inspired from that state.

You know you’re inspired when you get that light, elated feeling (I usually feel it in my chest.)  What inspires you these days?  How does it feel to you?

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