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Let Your Feelings Guide You.

Do you let your feelings guide you? Click through to learn how you can incorporate this intuitive practice more in your everyday life.

There has been a lot going on in my neck of the woods these days.  Mostly, it’s really wonderful stuff, but it doesn’t mean it’s easy just because it’s wonderful.  There are so many fantastic things we can experience in life that can totally stress us out, right?

Planning a wedding, settling into a new house and mapping out a future with Chris is causing me some high anxiety, so I’m trying to wrap my brain around all of the changes in a gentle way.   I know it’s normal to feel some fear with major change, but it doesn’t make it any easier to deal with.  I realized that in order for me to function in a healthy way, I need to pay very close attention to my feelings.

Our feelings are a barometer of what we’re experiencing.  They can be an amazing signal as to whether we are being true to ourselves; a proverbial steering wheel in life.

And because we’re all naturally a little narcissistic, it can often feel like our feelings are SO intense and SO unique.  Because in a way, they are– we only know ourselves from the inside, so we feel what we feel, and can’t compare it to anything else.

As a result, when the waves of life come up, I try to remember to go easy on myself and take a moment to check in.  I take a quick inventory of what’s really going on with me–because how could I expect anyone else to understand how I feel, if I don’t figure it out for myself first?

Here are 3 things that help me tune into my feelings (maybe they’ll help you, too):

  1. Tune in to your physical responses to different situations.  Does your breathing quicken? Do you get a pit in your stomach?  Do you get cold or sweaty?  All of these are a physical response to an emotional trigger.  Only you can know what your body is telling you, so stop ignoring the signs and start listening up.
  2. Suspend the obligatory gestures.  Forget about the rules and what you’re supposed to be doing to make others happy, tune into what YOU want and focus on how that feels.  Once you figure out what you want + how you want to feel, you can navigate your actions and emotions in a healthier way.
  3. Ask yourself: does it feel good?  Sometimes we get so caught up in getting to the end result that we forget to tune in along the way.  The journey is the gift, so making sure you enjoy each moment, no matter how small, will only make the destination that much sweeter.

I know when I am trying to be helpful or agreeable, I tend to put other people’s feelings above my own.  Perhaps it’s me seeking for approval or just wanting to make others happy, but I have recently realized something simple yet epic: I can follow my feelings and still be loving + lovable.  Following our feelings means letting others see them, too.

As I navigate this fascinating journey of getting to know myself better,  I am tuning in to my feelings more and letting them show.  And you know what?  That feels pretty good.





Let Your Feelings Guide You.2018-03-29T20:23:15-04:00

The secret to connecting with others. {It’s why we’re here}

Introvert or extrovert, we all need to connect with others to feel fulfilled. Read more to find out the key to this connection.

Your heart and my heart are very, very old friends. -Hafiz

I went to whole foods for lunch the other day and a woman started a conversation with me at the salad bar.  It was light and breezy–she wanted to tell me about the amazing hummus I was putting in my salad container.  She. was. excited!  She knew I was going to love it! Her sweet and genuine nature was refreshing; It was nice to talk to a random stranger in the supermarket and connect on something as simple as hummus.

It’s natural to connect. And it feels good.

So why does it seem like it happens less as we get older?  What part of maturing means closing off?  The everyday grind can become so isolating even when we have the opportunity to interact with others. Do we get more cautious and standoff-ish as we get older?

Connection gives purpose and meaning to our lives.  It’s such a basic notion, but we easily forget it.  Our ties create an understanding of the bigger picture. We relate to each other through even the slightest commonalities–that’s why we cry at TV commercials (I do, anyway) and we cringe when we see tragic accidents.  We can relate.  We are connected by common feelings.

Still, connection is a funny thing.  We all have a deep desire for those bonds, but actually opening up to make them happen can be challenging because the key to connection is vulnerability.

It’s about putting yourself out there and exposing who you are so others can relate to you. As a general rule, humans mostly seek comfort.  So reaching out to others (especially those we don’t know) can be very uncomfortable.  It can be scary to go out on that limb but the payoff to showing who you truly are, is worth it.

Because when we don’t connect, after a while, it causes suffering.


No one wants to be alone. We all want to be a part of some kind of tribe; It’s how we’re wired.

Growing up with an outgoing mother and a shy father, I find I can often ping-pong between introvert and extrovert.  Some days I’m bashful and don’t make a lot of eye contact; I just want to be in my own world.  Other days I’m smiling at everyone and striking up conversations with random strangers (hey there hummus lady!)  I’m comfortable with both because I’m honoring my feelings; but I do notice that when I attempt to connect with others (and push myself out the comfort zone), I just feel better.  I feel less alone.

Our purpose is mainly to connect with ourselves + as a result, connect with others.

It’s where the joy lies.

How are you connecting today?


The secret to connecting with others. {It’s why we’re here}2018-03-29T20:23:26-04:00
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