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Don’t Be Seduced By The Struggle. {Follow The Ease.}

Don’t Be Seduced By The Struggle. {Follow The Ease.} Move beyond the belief that you have to struggle in order to thrive! (I included some options to get you out of the struggle mode faster.) Click through for easy tips on how to follow a life of ease.

One of the most seductive lies we’re told is: you have to struggle to get what you want.

We are taught at a young age that we must fight for what we want–as if life is a battle and we are waging our own personal war.  This defensive and fearful attitude sets us up for pain and suffering, no?  It teaches us we must always be prepared to engage in combat in order to be happy.  Coming from this perspective, we forget that things can happen easily and effortlessly in life.

If we are constantly reinforcing thoughts about struggle and hardship, how can anything else show up?

I know in my own life when I am trying too hard to make something happen or if I’m white-knuckling it, the object of my desire usually eludes me.  It’s doubly frustrating because I see what I’m doing, but I just can’t get out of my own way.

During these times, if I take a step back and relax a little, things often fall into place.  It’s only when I evaluate what the struggle really means to me does it become clear why I’m pushing through it so hard to begin with.  Am I coming from a place of lack or insecurity?  Struggles are often rooted in fear–taking a deeper look helps me stop making choices out of fear.  When I remember this, I can step back and see where I can choose ease instead.

No matter how you slice it, challenges are a part of life; they build character and confidence.  And when kept in check, these growth experiences can bring us to the next level.  The key is knowing the difference between challenges and true struggle; only you can determine that.   One is helpful while the other instills fear and can ultimately hold you back.

Here are some ways to flow effortlessly through struggles:

1) Live in the moment. Getting what you want out of life comes from living in the moment and enjoying the pleasures that it brings.  Accepting what’s happening NOW and not living in the past or future allows us to enjoy the ease of living for today.   

2) Find pleasure in simple things.  “The best things in life are free” was a popular song for a reason.  When you enjoy the simple pleasures of life, it fills you with ease.  Life becomes fun again.

3) Be helpful to others.  When you come from a mindset of giving, the universe delivers it back to you ten-fold; Karma is what makes the world go around.  Helpful people always see solutions rather than problems + often receive help as much as they give it.

4) Be open to different alternatives.  If you get stuck thinking that only one way will do, it sure limits your options!  People that live with ease are open to doing one thing many ways; they are open to the idea that their way may not be best + are open to try new things.

I know a lot of times when I’m out of my own flow and buying into the struggle, it’s because of pressure from external factors: society telling me where I’m supposed to be by a certain time of life, what kind of work I should be doing, what environment I should be in etc.  It’s in these murky waters that my own dreams and wishes can get lost.

Struggle depletes the inner joy we naturally possess because it is not our instinctive default; happiness is.  

Happiness is the antidote to struggle.  Happiness cultivates moments of ease, especially when we follow our gut because it helps us move forward. With a happiness mindset, things happen effortlessly.  We are meant to be happy.

When I’m happy, I pick the ease-ier way.  I follow my gut, I trust the flow of life.  I don’t get caught up in the keeping-up-with-anyone and I just focus on what my heart is saying.  The struggles seem to disappear.  Choosing happiness brings me back to focusing on who I am and who I am becoming.  And that’s the best place to be.

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Who Are You: Your Authentic Self.

What does it mean to be your authentic self?  A lot of times authenticity is confused with perfection and those are two very different things. 

Being authentic is not who you are, it’s what you do. 

We can be authentic by practicing it everyday–it’s a choice we make of whether or not we are going to let ourselves be seen.  It’s also a practice in letting go of what others think of us (I know that can be hard to do.)

And it’s not about being perfect: Perfectionism is just a cover for fear.  Authenticity is letting go of that fear and letting people see who you really are, warts and all.

What does it mean to be authentic? A lot of times authenticity is confused with perfection and they are quite different. Click through to read more about creating an authentic life.I used to give talks on changing eating habits and how to incorporate a healthier lifestyle into everyday living.  And as I would talk about superfoods and how the rainbow of fruits and vegetables can heal the body, I could feel the skepticism and doubt creep in to the room.  Everyone resists change and who wants to hear about how vegetables can alter your life, anyway?!

So in an attempt to be authentic with my audience, I would then confess my love for doritoes and cherry coke.  The horror!  We all have our guilty pleasures.  By telling them about my favorite snacks, I gained their trust because I became more real.

Being authentic draws people in and creates a connection.

How do you know when you’re being authentic?  It feels good.  It’s hard to put yourself out there at times (we’re all shy to an extent), but ultimately when you let yourself be seen + heard for you who are, it creates ease in your life and you can feel that deep in the pit of your belly or the flutter of your heart.  Others will respond to that.

Self-expression is vital to our well-being! Through this, we build awareness and are able to dig in deeper to who we really are.  And as a result, showing up more sincerely in life becomes easier.

Allowing yourself to truly be seen? That’s authenticity.

Take action:

Here are some questions to think about to help you dig in to the parts of your life that will bring out your authenticity:

  • What do you love doing when you have some time to procrastinate?
  • Fill in the blank: If I knew I could do anything and not fail, I would _________________.
  • What do you spend your daydream time thinking about?
  • What is something people compliment you about?
  • How do you dream spending your retirement years?

Pay attention to those answers that gave you a light and happy feeling.  You can tell you’re heading in the right direction when you feel a sense of ease and excitement. 

The answers to these questions are a great peek into some of the things that inspire your authenticity; maybe it’s time to dive in and see where they lead you.

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