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The Secret To Change

Need a pick me up to brighten your day? Click through to see the series Quick Inspiration on the Blog. The personal growth series includes some of my favorite quotes!

Change is never easy; it’s in our nature to resist it, and that’s ok.  We are hard wired to seek comfort–to want to keep things the same so we don’t have to feel stretched beyond our limits.

But change is so good for us.  It helps us see how things can be different.  The key is to focus on what’s ahead rather than on what we’re leaving behind, yes?

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5 Posts That Will Change Your Perspective

From-the-vault

Here are a few oldies but goodies that can help you change your perspective.  If there’s one thing I know, it’s that it only take a moment to see things differently.  Hopefully these words from out of the vault will help you do just that:

♥ Don’t Ask For Permission To Take Care Of Yourself.

I admit it, I am a reformed rule follower.  When I was in kindergarten, I learned that following the rules doesn’t always make sense.

♥ Don’t Be Seduced By The Struggle. {Follow The Ease.}

One of the most seductive lies we’re told is: you have to struggle to get what you want.  But  if we are constantly reinforcing thoughts about struggle and hardship, how can anything else show up?

♥ Getting Clear On the WHY of Your Work Will Lead You To The WHAT.

You can be in the ideal work scenario and still feel unsettled, confused or dissatisfied.  Figuring out the why of your work will catapult you to a different level of happiness and fulfillment.

♥ Want to get inspired? {Feel your way through it.}

Inspiration is the fuel that moves you forward.  Figuring out your inspirational muse can be tricky at times, but it’s so important to your ultimate happiness.

♥ 5 Simple Steps to get what you want from life. {Lunch is optional}

You are the artist of your own life!  You can intentionally construct where you want to go rather than just let life happen to you.  All you need is a vision and a desire to follow through on it.

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Getting To Know You + Me: What Part Of Your Life Do You Want To Change The Most?

Getting To Know You + Me

This series is about getting to know you + me.  It’s a reflection of sorts to help you get to know yourself better (and I’m going to share, too!)  When we know ourselves better, it’s easier for others to know us, too, and that creates stronger bonds + connections.  As a result, we feel happier.

Here’s how it works:  I’ll be posting a question here on the blog and you can share your answer in the comments below or on Facebook, Instagram or Google+ using the hashtag #gettingtoknowyouandme .  The cool part is that you can use the hashtag to find others on the same journey.  Who knows?  You may make a new friend.

GTKYM Change your life

As soon as I thought of this question, I knew my answer: get more organized.  I feel like I’m always playing catch up by trying to implement the latest organizational technique, but none of them stick!  I feel like if I could get a system going that works for me and stick to it, I’d be less stressed and have more free time;  Then I won’t be wasting time worrying about what I have to do.  I have found that the simpler something is, the more I am prone to stick with it.  I need to explore that a little deeper.

For example: I just discovered Google Keep.  This application is ridiculously simple–just a bunch of tiles that you can move around containing lists of whatever you want.  It’s total genius for me because I can make a grocery list, favorite songs to listen to, punch list for the week, etc.  And even better?  I can access it on my phone and my laptop.  Since it’s synced through google, all I have to do is type in the info I want and everything is automatically saved.  Total Score.

Now with that said, that’s only a small part of my life that helps me get a tad bit more organized.  What I really need help with is figuring out a way to keep my car clean (it’s a total pig sty), how to change my clothes management system so they don’t pile up on my dresser and ottoman, figure out a way to get more blog posts in my back up arsenal,  I could go on and on… But I have a feeling if I could get some of the big stuff into an easy-to-use system, the smaller things would fall into place.

Do you have a system that keeps you organized and your life humming along like a finely tuned instrument?  Please tell me in the comments below– I need to know about it!

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What You Focus On Will Grow.

Ever wonder how some people create exactly what they want in their lives? Click through for the secret on how you can learn to do this too.

While I was getting ready for the day this morning, a somewhat shocking thought popped into my head: I’m actually living the life I’ve always dreamed of.  I mean not everything is exactly as I want it to be, but for the most part it’s pretty great. I wanted a pretty simple life surrounded with the basics–a loving partner, comfortable home and meaningful work–and all of a sudden, I have all of that.  If someone had told me years ago when I was flying solo in my cozy apartment that I would feel this way , I might not have believed it.  It just always seemed like it would happen sometime in the future.

But these things didn’t happen by accident, I was taught how to draw them closer.

Growing up each summer before the school year started, I’d go on an annual goal setting luncheon with my mom and that really set the stage for a lot of my powerful, positive beliefs. It’s pretty simple: think good thoughts and good things happen.  I’ve seen it work over + over.  And even though I have always believed in affirmations, setting goals and putting ‘it’ out there in the universe, when these actual things come to pass?  It still feels a little bit like magic.

Because the saying is true–what you focus on, will grow.  When I’m in a bad mood, all I recognize is the nasty person on the check out line or the horrible events happening in the world.  When I’m in a happier, more intentional state of mind, it’s easy to recognize the sweet words from a friend or the magical luminosity of the full moon.  I see it again and again: I create my own reality.

So as I gear up for the next phase of my life–growing deeper in my relationship with Chris, working to make my art business bloom and sprucing up our little nest –I want to tattoo this phrase on my heart so I never forget.  What I focus on will grow.

I want to focus on guilt-free, gentle living.  I want to enjoy the birds and wildlife in my backyard and spend hours blissfully painting in my studio.  I want to love Chris up so much that he’s a puddle of calm.  It all sounds so simple, doesn’t it?

So what stops me from always being this way?

I started reading this book called The Big Leap last week and it talks all about this exact topic: what stops us from accepting that we could always be content, happy or satisfied?  The author insists that it’s about how we periodically reach what we believe is our own ‘upper limit’.  Which means this:  when we feel like we’ve gotten to what we believe is the level of happiness we deserve, we self-sabotage.  We stop the flow of happiness and good vibes right in their tracks; it’s as if we don’t believe we have the right to an endless well of good fortune.  And yet, we do.

So I try to remember: what if I let go of those old fears + boring script that runs around in my head and expected happiness as the norm?  It would continue to improve my life, and here’s the kicker–it would make other people’s lives better, too.  Because aren’t we are all encouraged by other people’s success and happiness?

I’m deciding to look at it as bravery to accept continual happiness as my right, even though it may feel a little arrogant at times.  And maybe it’s even my duty to show how you too, can be perpetually satisfied; all  you have to do is focus on what you really, really want.

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Related: Creating a vision board and How to create what you want

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Unexpected Kindness

Unexpected kindness

I love this saying and boy, is it true.  I notice that even when I don’t necessarily want to be kind (if I’m in a bad mood or whatever) just taking that extra step to be kind can change an entire situation.

Kindness is contagious and that’s something I want to spread around.

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Getting To Know You + Me: What Part Of Your Life Do You Want To Change The Most?

Getting To Know You + Me

This series is about getting to know you + me.  It’s a reflection of sorts to help you get to know yourself better (and I’m going to share, too!)  When we know ourselves better, it’s easier for others to know us, too, and that creates stronger bonds + connections.  As a result, we feel happier.

Here’s how it works:  I’ll be posting a question here on the blog and you can share your answer in the comments below or on Facebook, Instagram or Google+ using the hashtag #gettingtoknowyouandme .  The cool part is that you can use the hashtag to find others on the same journey.  Who knows?  You may make a new friend.

Getting To Know You + Me Change

My life is pretty great right now, but let’s face it people– there’s always room for improvement.  And Lord knows I could use a little help in a few areas, especially in the organization arena.  That’s something that I’d like to change the most in my life right now.

I’m pretty organized in my head, like I can remember a what drawer I put a certain shirt in last week, but it’s getting the shirt into the actual drawer part that trips me up.  Yup, I’m one of those messy people.

I remember the first time my boss walked by my car after work–after getting a peek inside, he started hysterically laughing and pointing.  There were some canvases I was working on, my gym bag, paints strewn across the floor, a couple of books, various candy wrappers, I could go on and on.  He couldn’t believe that I was hiding such a sloppy side of myself so well from the world!  I don’t look like I’d be a messy person, but man, I can let things go like the best of them.  And you know what?  Him laughing at me like that was pretty embarrassing, but I’m actually kind of ok with that sloppy side of me.

That is, until it gets in the way of what I want to do, and then it drives me crazy.  And lately I’ve noticed my lack of organization + neatness is getting in the way of me being productive with my art.  I waste a lot of time searching for things I want to use in my studio that could very easily be at my fingertips if I were more organized.  Ugh.

So there you have it, I’d like to change being sloppy into being more organized.  I struggle with it–is it just a part of who I am?  Or am I being lazy?  I know when something keeps showing up and I always have the same reaction (annoyance, want to get rid of it, change it, etc) it’s time to take a deeper look.

I’m going to try to make getting more organized a priority this year.  We’ll see how it goes.  What are you looking to change in your life?  

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