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Who Are You: Your Authentic Self.

What does it mean to be your authentic self?  A lot of times authenticity is confused with perfection and those are two very different things. 

Being authentic is not who you are, it’s what you do. 

We can be authentic by practicing it everyday–it’s a choice we make of whether or not we are going to let ourselves be seen.  It’s also a practice in letting go of what others think of us (I know that can be hard to do.)

And it’s not about being perfect: Perfectionism is just a cover for fear.  Authenticity is letting go of that fear and letting people see who you really are, warts and all.

What does it mean to be authentic? A lot of times authenticity is confused with perfection and they are quite different. Click through to read more about creating an authentic life.I used to give talks on changing eating habits and how to incorporate a healthier lifestyle into everyday living.  And as I would talk about superfoods and how the rainbow of fruits and vegetables can heal the body, I could feel the skepticism and doubt creep in to the room.  Everyone resists change and who wants to hear about how vegetables can alter your life, anyway?!

So in an attempt to be authentic with my audience, I would then confess my love for doritoes and cherry coke.  The horror!  We all have our guilty pleasures.  By telling them about my favorite snacks, I gained their trust because I became more real.

Being authentic draws people in and creates a connection.

How do you know when you’re being authentic?  It feels good.  It’s hard to put yourself out there at times (we’re all shy to an extent), but ultimately when you let yourself be seen + heard for you who are, it creates ease in your life and you can feel that deep in the pit of your belly or the flutter of your heart.  Others will respond to that.

Self-expression is vital to our well-being! Through this, we build awareness and are able to dig in deeper to who we really are.  And as a result, showing up more sincerely in life becomes easier.

Allowing yourself to truly be seen? That’s authenticity.

Take action:

Here are some questions to think about to help you dig in to the parts of your life that will bring out your authenticity:

  • What do you love doing when you have some time to procrastinate?
  • Fill in the blank: If I knew I could do anything and not fail, I would _________________.
  • What do you spend your daydream time thinking about?
  • What is something people compliment you about?
  • How do you dream spending your retirement years?

Pay attention to those answers that gave you a light and happy feeling.  You can tell you’re heading in the right direction when you feel a sense of ease and excitement. 

The answers to these questions are a great peek into some of the things that inspire your authenticity; maybe it’s time to dive in and see where they lead you.

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Who do you perform for? You’re not an actor. {Unless you want to be}

Who do you perform for in your life?  Click through for the easiest way to drop the act and be yourself.

I  have a lot of roles to play out each day.  You know what I mean–the lover, friend, therapist, all around fixer etc.  I wear so many hats that sometimes it fees like I’m performing different roles in a play.  It’s normal to be different things to different people, but what happens when those things begin to take on a life of their own–when it feels like you’re being a different person altogether?

It can be downright exhausting when you realize who you perform for.  Does this sound familiar: you can’t be a little off color in front of your parents because they’re old school.  You have to talk about politics with your boss so he doesn’t think you’re a brainless nitwit.  You are the sexy, nothing-bothers-me girlfriend.

And what’s funny is that a lot of the time, people can see through the crap. They can see that you’re spinning life through a particular lens that doesn’t suit you.

When did we start trying to be different things to different people?

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I was recently listening to a conversation between girlfriends, who were talking about these sorts of roles.  It was obvious they were polished o the outside and seemed to have it together, but they were complaining about having to play the game.  They’re moms, wives, sisters, friends and caregivers among many other things.  They tweak their temper not to upset others. They twist and contort their opinion to keep the peace.  They tamper down their personalities to smooth things over.  It’s something they were taught early in life–to be polite, to not rock the boat, to be seen and not heard. How utterly boring.

What if someone just told them to stop doing that?  To just take a deep breath and be themselves?

Being yourself wholeheartedly means being vulnerable.  It can be uncomfortable when you are the full throttle version of yourself, it’s scary and you can be rejected because people may not like you at that moment.  But what if that was ok?  Afterall, you can’t please everyone.  And guess what?  If you turn those people off, those are not your people.

And there’s also a lot of other wonderful things that come with being yourself like relief and ease.  You can relax.  You automatically create room for other like-minded friends.

As I get older, I realize that I care less about what other people think about me.   Don’t get me wrong,  that pit in the stomach feeling still happens–wanting to seem like I’ve got it together!  I’m making it happen in life!  And it’s all easy!  But nothing could be further from the truth, we’re all feeling our way through.  But I find it’s a lot easier to manage things when I’m not lying to myself about it.  I think it’s a combination of maturity and understanding that everyone else has that same fear of just wanting to be ok.

What I often forget though, is that people connect on the things we usually try to hide.  The quirks and the weird things that we think other people won’t like, are the most endearing part of who we are.  We all want to seem more ‘normal’, where in reality it’s that freak flag that really draws people in.

We all play roles in our lives, but hopefully there comes a point where the role you’re playing and who you really are come together.  It feels good to be authentic and make no apologies for your presence in the world.  Try it out, you might just be surprised.

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