Last year, I took a week to unwind and relax during the holidays. It was an amazing time to recharge and it reminded me how much I have to be thankful for. I had a lot of time to reflect on my past year: I got engaged, moved to a new home and started my art business. It was exciting, to say the least.
During my down time, I loved to see how others reflect on their past and how they’re viewing their future, too. As I read a lot of blogs and posts on the web, I saw the usual common theme: how to be better for next year. There’s always the thought about the new year that we need to constantly improve + keep expanding ourselves in order to be good enough. Create the new you. But for some reason this year, that thought hit me differently.
I don’t know if it’s because I’m really trying to cultivate more compassion for myself and others, or if it was simply a growth moment, but I felt a little sad about making changes for the new year. I realized I don’t want to change myself so much this coming year; I kind of like who I am right now. Because it’s all about being comfortable + trusting our choices, right? And loving who we are in any given moment.
I’m learning to ride the waves of my life + accepting that there are always going to be challenges. And I’m enjoying learning more about who I am becoming, without beating myself up about it along the way, especially when things don’t go to plan.
So this year I’m going to work on focusing more on the wonderful qualities of who I am, and how they help me get to where I want to go. I’m going to love myself deeper. I’m going to zone in on what is working, because I know that what I focus on, will grow. And that change to be better everyone talks about? It will happen naturally.
Because I don’t want to live that shame-based existence that come with failed new year’s resolutions. I want to let go of that ever-looming pressure to always be more, do more + try harder; it ruins a lot of fun along the way. Things don’t always have to change to be good, I can just appreciate how my life is right now. And if I don’t ‘get it all done’, I’m not a failure.
Do you want to join me on this self-kindness march? Tell me what action you’re going to take to be more accepting of yourself here. Can you extend this compassion + kindness to others as well? That means letting people off the hook and accepting them for how they are. Because we’re all ok as is, even when we don’t believe it ourselves.